Month: August 2017

I’m so sorry about my friend.

Yes, it is the hardest, yet also the easiest decision to make. Dh had to make it for his father. Alvin had made it clear to all of us that he did not want kept alive on life support when his time came. Yet my dmil could not do it, the youngest sil fought us on doing it. Finally dh had the doctor speak bluntly to the whole family about dfil’s chances of recovery. His kidneys and most of his other functions had already shut down. He had not regained consciousness in several days. Then in front of the entire family dh told the doctor what my dfil had told all of us at one time or another. Then said he felt we should honor his father’s wishes. Dmil said yes, but would not sign the papers, she simply could not do it—the hardest decision of her life.

So dh as the oldest child did, the easiest, because he had promised his father he would and he knew that was what Alvin wanted. My dbil second the signature. And we were all with him as he peacefully passed. It was what he wanted. I don’t know if you believe in spirits or not, but dfil showed up two days later looking for dmil to say good-bye and he smiled at me and nodded as I told him where she was. Dh saw him again months later, happily watching us play cards with dmil.

Your friend will leave peacefully, and she will be happy and that is what is important.

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My homesteading friend from the other list is in bad shape.

She was put on a respirator earlier today, and has gone deeper and deeper into physical failures, with one system after the other shutting down. Her husband just sent out a note to the group that tomorrow evening (Friday), they’re going to disconnect her from Life Support so that she can have a peaceful end on God’s terms. I suspect that was one of the hardest decisions he ever had to make.

The homesteading group is going to have a moment of silence tomorrow for that event. I would like to ask that anyone on this list, Christian or homesteader or just a good old garden variety human being, take a moment Friday evening to say a little prayer for her and her family. Her husband’s words to our group was that he wanted her end to be peaceful, and that God would be getting another homesteader. I know at least a few folks on this list would consider her a kindred spirit, and I know all of us must wonder sometimes how our own ends will come. It’s rare we know in advance when that time will be. For her, it’ll be Friday night. Her name is Sue. Please keep her and her family in your prayers tomorrow.

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