Month: September 2017

Just found out on another list that a “virtual friend” of ours

suffered a massive stroke overnight. She was airlifted to a Springfield, MO hospital and is receiving excellent care, but the prognosis is poor. Her out of state family members are in the process of flying in. I’ve never met this family but I’ve known them for years through online email lists like this one. I would ask everyone to please say a prayer for Sue and Keith and their family, as Sue fights for her life today/tonight/beyond. Always sobering when something like this happens. Give a hug to your loved ones today too; Sue went to bed last night a healthy woman. She may never wake up. I know her family members already know she loves them but it never hurts to say it again.

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Charles, can you talk more about the Legacy Drawer, and what all goes into it? I’ve never heard of this (maybe I’ve been asleep at the keyboard too often). The suddenness of this event really spooked me, and I’m sure Sharon has all sorts of stories of folks who not only passed before their time, but didn’t let anyone know what they wanted. I’ve started to look into a formal will, but I also like the idea of an informal collection of instructions for family/friends.

PS – for an interesting take on how folks face the end of life, with some social commentary as well, check out the movie Gran Torino starring Clint Eastwod. Not his typical Western or Dirty Harry movie; it was sensitive, poignant, and very applicable to many current households. We just saw it last weekend for the first time, and it had a lot to say on the choices that a person makes when they start looking their own mortality in the face.

Feeling very mortal today, and I’m going to get started on my own Legacy Drawer this afternoon. But on a bizarre side note, a bunch of us on that other list have decided to hold what might be the first virtual Irish wake for this person. Not sure how that’s going to go yet, but it starts tonight at 8:30pm Central Time, with all of us offering up several moments of silence as her life support machines are turned off. Followed by sharing stories about her life and her family amongst all the folks who came to know her via that email group. Not the same as gathering in someone’s living room, but it felt like the right thing to do. I suppose as we become more separated by distance, yet keep connected via the Internet, these types of events will become more common. The moments of silence are tentatively scheduled for 8:30pm Central time tonight, if folks here want to participate in their own way. I’ll share some notes for how this virtual wake business went, after it’s come and gone.

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